It is time for the Majority to have a voice, Gender wars rage on!

The Gender war rages on so it seems. Women are the majority in this country, globally, but yet we remain oppressed. It took until 1920 for women to even get the right to vote, in 1963 an equal pay act was put into place it wasn’t until 2007, that Nancy Pelosi elevated to Speaker of the House, and now we have a strong viable candidate running for the White House. We still are scrambling with issues of sexual discrimination. If you follow the link provided in this blog you will be able to see how we are still a part of a “meat market” so it seems. Oppression, subjugation of women, child abuse, pedophilia in the form of polygamy, (over 500 women and children recently were freed from bondage from the hands of a polygamist colony in Texas) and a decline in the job market for women over the age of 40 along with their incomes is soaring. Poverty amongst women is over 60%, yet their male counterpart is far less. The disparity for women of color is even higher. We have an opportunity to band together and to forge onward as a people and change the understanding of women in our society once and for all and we are contemplating putting another man in the White House? We can forge an alliance and make a strong, bold statement that women do have a voice we are not just T & A! I heard recently that women are out waging men for the first time in history, that is if you are between the ages of 25 and 32 and are single living in the bigger cities. Well, with that said, when you mix in the 25-32 year old women and the many 45+’ers then you end assuming all kinds of discriminations going on, all at the hands of the men who still control the outcome of far too many women. Why are we turning over our rights to yet another man? Hillary Clinton has one huge redeeming quality, (amongst many)! She is a woman! She is dynamic leader, one with experience, a voice, backing, intelligence, articulation, control, and a solid supporter of family. That is more than evident! I say it is time to take the “gender war” to a whole new level. It is time to take control of “OUR HOUSE.” After all who cleans a house, keeps a house better than a woman?


3rd graders seek to punish their teacher!


3rd Graders plan an assault on a teacher? Hello, where are parents?


There are a few points to cover with this attempt at “soapBlogging.” It is quite possible I should call it soap-flogging, and a few parents and then the children should be in line for it, after that, all of us for being so ignorant! We have thrown out the baby with the bath water when it comes to this concept of moving forward as a human species. Seriously! We no longer care for our young. We believe that “they can walk and talk,” therefore they can care for themselves. Or rather the monitor, whether it is on a computer, a TV, etc., that is the Nanny in most homes! I am amazed at the number of functional people, hardworking people that do not understand that they are functional, successful because they had limits put on them when they were growing up, mostly in two parent homes. Most were limited as to the scope of what they were to watch, listen to, what they were allowed to experience and where they were allowed to go. Now, those children have grown up and they look at themselves in the mirror and honestly believe they can raise their children void of any intrinsic discipline like they themselves had. (Assuming these children’s parents were raised in a quality home environment) They somehow believe that if their mind and eyes can handle it, so can their 6 year olds. “Oh we watch CSI together, Johnny really likes it!” What? I have actually heard garbage like this. The number of first grade students that know more about horror flicks then I did astounded me!

So here is the point: Yesterday it was reported that children in Georgia got mad at their 3rd grade teacher for disciplining a fellow student for standing on a chair. As a classroom teacher it is essential to safe-guard your students, so the teachers response is seemingly rational. It is the irrational response of a group of 9 or so students to was to “take her out” is the big problem! They plotted, planned and were ready to deliver the punishment upon the teacher to the point of labeling it as a strong premeditated movie plot. Did you get that, a movie plot! When will we learn that children will imitate that which they are exposed and desensitized to? So they would trip her, knocking her down, hit her in the head with a glass paper weight, hand cuff her, tape her up…you get the drift. I am astounded!

Yes, there is talk of legal action. There is the possible long term suspensions, etc. How about long term counseling not only for the children, but the teacher who is going to need it? How about arresting the parents of the child that brought in the paraphernalia and failed to recognize that “Johnny” was bringing strange items into school? Doesn’t that make them an accessory to the crime? How about breaking up the little band of assaulters guaranteeing that they cannot communicate in any way with each other? Having been in the classroom that mob mentality will only grow, sad but true.

Now on to another point about all of this: It is time for the nation’s school systems to go to the same level of employment as postal workers, IRS employees, etc. Our schools are not safe, they are not equitable. Teachers work in a high stress zone, it is dangerous. Schools are more dangerous than most places of employment. They are daily in a hostile work environment. This cannot even exclude high performance suburban schools as we know with the Columbine incident. When teachers have to fear for their life by merely going to work they should be able to press the issue of hostile work environments and be protected by the laws that protect every other place of employment. But because there is such a varying degree district to district, state to state, the individual unions are in charge of protection. Because a teacher is only protected once they are tenured, they have no recourse. It is an unfair playing field, in many situations. The No Child Left Behind and its quasi-witch hunt approach has weakened the union voice, thereby weakening the teacher’s voice. The establishment of Charter Schools has limited the power of the union even more, white washing the problem. The Establishment of the Federal government to guarantee equitability not only for our children, but for our teachers is way past due. By placing our school systems under one umbrella, we have a better chance of safeguarding the delivery of education and protection for teachers and innocent students. Potentially making education fair and equitable, the time has come.

So it is time for there to be no variance in the delivery of education, or that benefit that one teacher has over another. It is time for teachers to regain their voice. It is time for parents to be parents and for children to be allowed to be children. They need to be free from those things that will distort and pervert the developing mind. We are heading down a path that will take a few generations to undo if we do not step up and demand change now!

Outsourcing the Family? The American Way!

As I was driving from Indianapolis to Cold Spring New York to spend a month long sabbatical this past weekend I was reminded of my life as a young wife and mother.  It was in that pause to remember that I realized a simple truth about what it is to be a wife and mother, a “homemaker” specifically in the 21st century.  It is daunting at best! What I learned from my experience as a “stay at home” mom is this.  No woman should ever be without her own income stream!  Why do I feel so strongly about that?  It is because of this; to have to ask a man, a spouse (in the event that you are a “homemaker” of the male persuasion) for money for anything. It is demoralizing really.  If a child asks his parent for a dollar to buy a candy bar, they run the risk of rejection.  Rejection is actually an oppressive tool.  To have to ask for money from a spouse puts them over the other spouse.  The one who makes the most money (in most cases) is the one that has the power.  That is the American way, the social model that we are set up on.  So this is how I see it.

At one time in our history a family as an organization had a purpose.  All the members of the organization worked together. They had to! No one ate unless they did.  No one kept warm, cool, hydrated, you name it.  There was a solid purpose to the familial function. Every member of the “organization” had a role and was reliant upon the other.  A man/husband relied upon woman/wife to feed him.  To prepare the food, the home, that was necessary in order to work outside the home in the field, sometimes being gone for days at a time.  Increasingly over the years as women have moved towards equality with men, self-sufficiency has been mandated.  No longer is it necessary to “make home” rather everything that a woman once provided for a man, creating an organization is easily “outsourced.”  If we look at the family as an organization which our Nation was founded, developed upon then we can see the breakdown in the family is equal to that of business. 

The American worker is no longer needed as much as before as it is more cost effective to bring work overseas to lower wage individuals.  So it is with the American family way.  We wonder why divorce is so high, adultery, internet pandering, superficial relationships, etc.  It is because all of the necessities of life are being met through outsourcing. 

The family is no longer an organization based upon need.  So with that I truly believe that it is necessary for every stay at home, “homemaker” to have an income stream so as to maintain balance in the infrastructure and keep up with the times so as to avoid, “outsourcing.”  We outsource our child raising, our house cleaning, our landscaping, gardening, laundry, sexual gratification (not cost effective at all if you look at current rates) even grocery shopping can be outsourced!  But the bigger question is this. Can we really afford the cost in the long run? In the mean time empowerment comes from the ability to walk up to the counter and pay for your own bottled water without having to ask for the money from your business partner.